b'Sometimes when we express concern for a student and offer help, their response is thanks, but no thanks.If I continue to be concerned, I might try the tact of "OK, I know you don\'t think it matters for you, but others around you are seeing things that make us very worried and we would very much like for you to see someone who could help. Out of respect for your friends and faculty and people who care, would you commit to doing this? We\'ll make the appointment together right now". If the concerns about the student are significant, I would tell the student that it\'s essential that we know she/he\'s ok to remain as part of the campus community; that we need to know she/he has the resources she/he needs to be safe and well. - Marion Anne Ward, Director of the Mary Baldwin College Center at Blue Ridge Community CollegeI see reasons to worry about students in many cases.Those who are performing beautifully and at the highest levels of achievement are often the ones who are working the hardest to fill a psychological need or to find affirmation and approval. I\'ve learned to ask the simple but meaningful questions of these students: How are you doing, really?How much stress are you feeling?Would it be helpful to you to talk about finding ways for you to enjoy your spare time more?Of course, those who are underperforming, or barely hanging on, are easy.You know there\'s somethingGeneral Concerns112'