b'lately that you . . .) Ask, How are things going for you? Listen attentively and encourage him or her to talk. (Tell me more about that.) Allow the student time to tell the story. Allow for silences if the student is slow to talk. Ask open-ended questions that deal directly with the issues without judging. (What problems has that situation caused you?) If there are signs of safety risk, ask if the student is considering suicide. A student who is considering suicide will likely be relieved that you asked. If the student is not contemplating suicide, asking the question will not put ideas in their head. Restate what you have heard as well as your concern and caring. (What do you need to do to get back on a healthy path?) Ask the student what s/he thinks would help. Suggest resources and referrals. Share information about resources you suggest and the potential benefit to the student. (I know the folks in that office and they are really good at helping students work through these kinds of situations.) Avoid making sweeping promises of confidentiality, particularly if the student presents a safety risk. Students who are suicidal need swift professional intervention; assurances of absolute confidentiality may get in the way. State and National Support25'